Beware the guy that does not know how to follow directions, even loosely. Let me tell you why...
I met *Travis* on a popular online dating website. His emails, texts and phone calls had me in stitches he was so funny! We also had some very real, grown up talks and he even told me he had a child with his ex wife and a few experiences of his while serving in Iraq. I felt truly at ease with him, so much so that I suggested he join me and a few friends of mine that were having a pool party. I figured Travis would fit in perfectly, what could go wrong?
He was game when I told him about the pool party and that we'd probably be in the water most of the afternoon (pool pong anyone?!) so don't forget to bring his swim suit and towel. I had a picture of him, blond hair with hat on backwards, slight smile so I knew what he looked like. I told him to pick me up at 12:30pm, party started at 1:00pm. He showed up 20 minutes late with no towel, no swim trunks. He said he'd swim in his jean shorts. Did I just hallucinate? Guys, even I know that's not comfortable! I put on my famous sorority smile and we drove to Target where I made him purchase a low cost pair of trunks. Late to the party, I shook off the rocky first impression with some homemade punch and we proceeded to have a great time in the afternoon sun, with "CANNON BALL!" announced every 10 minutes to see who's splash was bigger.
I knew he had a few tattoo's but in the pool you're practically naked, hence the ink I saw was more than just a few. More like leg, small sleeve, back and chest. I don't care too much about tattoos, I've got one myself but it just took me by surprise, his idea of a "few". Another surprise, he was missing a front tooth of which I didn't see because he was only "slightly smiling" in his picture, lips closed. Turns out he was in a fight 2 years prior and it got knocked out. He hadn't been able to find the time to get it fixed. Really? 2 years and you're all booked up? OK I'm shallow, I know.
With the punch flowing, pool pong in full force, around 3pm I looked around and noticed Travis was missing. I went into the house, maybe he was in the kitchen? Bathroom? No sign of him. Odd, I went to the guest room to grab something from my bag and bingo! Legs and arms sprawled out, face down into the bed, he is passed out and snoring. I tried waking him to see if he was OK, no luck, just how much punch had he drank? A first for me, what do you do when your date falls asleep on you? Back to the pool with a fresh punch glass and let him sleep it off.
He woke back up around midnight and didn't offer me a ride home. I spent the night, embarrassed as all hell that I'd misread the situation so far off the map. Reports from my friends elaborated on his ex wife, she apparently was a drug addict, thus the cause for divorce. I felt bad for the guy but lets just say we parted ways after that night with a "It was great to meet you" conversation and no second date occurred. Honestly, he was asleep longer than he was awake, how could it not be awkward from this point on?
For those friends of mine that are reading this and were there that night, I know you're still laughing lol
Friday, January 21, 2011
Thursday, January 20, 2011
Run for Your Life!
It was suggested I expand some of the topics covered in this blog, so why not? I will still keep it pretty relevant to the dating topic though so please don't think I'm switching it up to a political platform or anything off the wall.
Last weekend, I ran my first marathon with a very good friend of mine. Sore muscles, creaky joints and knees feeling older than they really are, we still finished with smiles on our faces. I highly suggest if you are considering to start running, even a 5k, to take a friend or a 4 legged buddy along with you, accountability will keep you motivated.
Speaking of motivation, my first big run in 2010 I had the idea to put my name on my shirt so incase I'd hit a wall and I heard a stranger yell "Go Sarah!" it'd push me to keep going. Honestly, the trick worked like a charm and it got me thinking, why stop at just my name on my shirt? Last Sunday, I was running on behalf of a sorority Sisters' step-mom that had passed away last summer from cancer and put a sign on my back "Running for Connie" and there were runners who noticed and commented (as they zoomed past me).
For me, enough is never enough and if I was able to educate just on my shirt alone my name and who I was running for, why not spice it up a little? Like minded people tend to get along better than opposites and I'm thinking this is a great way to meet men! Why not on the next full or 1/2 marathon put on the back of my shirt "Single and Looking"? What better way to meet a hot, fit, sexy man glistening with sweat in the Arizona sunshine, muscles flexed...ok, sorry...had to take a minute there.
If you're crazy enough to run a marathon (I'm already training for my next one) then wouldn't it make sense to pick up some man-meat on the course? Bigger picture, you both see each other at your sweaty worst and if you're not scared away by mile 14, then think what a shower and fresh clothes will do!
It was an honor to run for Connie and I'd do it again in a heartbeat because thats Sisterhood, but I might try the next run with "Fun, Single and Looking" just to test out this theory. Couldn't hurt right? Got a better slogan, let me know :)
Last weekend, I ran my first marathon with a very good friend of mine. Sore muscles, creaky joints and knees feeling older than they really are, we still finished with smiles on our faces. I highly suggest if you are considering to start running, even a 5k, to take a friend or a 4 legged buddy along with you, accountability will keep you motivated.
Speaking of motivation, my first big run in 2010 I had the idea to put my name on my shirt so incase I'd hit a wall and I heard a stranger yell "Go Sarah!" it'd push me to keep going. Honestly, the trick worked like a charm and it got me thinking, why stop at just my name on my shirt? Last Sunday, I was running on behalf of a sorority Sisters' step-mom that had passed away last summer from cancer and put a sign on my back "Running for Connie" and there were runners who noticed and commented (as they zoomed past me).
For me, enough is never enough and if I was able to educate just on my shirt alone my name and who I was running for, why not spice it up a little? Like minded people tend to get along better than opposites and I'm thinking this is a great way to meet men! Why not on the next full or 1/2 marathon put on the back of my shirt "Single and Looking"? What better way to meet a hot, fit, sexy man glistening with sweat in the Arizona sunshine, muscles flexed...ok, sorry...had to take a minute there.
If you're crazy enough to run a marathon (I'm already training for my next one) then wouldn't it make sense to pick up some man-meat on the course? Bigger picture, you both see each other at your sweaty worst and if you're not scared away by mile 14, then think what a shower and fresh clothes will do!
It was an honor to run for Connie and I'd do it again in a heartbeat because thats Sisterhood, but I might try the next run with "Fun, Single and Looking" just to test out this theory. Couldn't hurt right? Got a better slogan, let me know :)
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
Smile for the Birdie!
Cruising along the social online scene and you run across the whole shabang of personalities, back grounds, perspectives and probably some of the most interesting photos to help paint a picture of a potential new mate.
Lets be honest, the first thing everyone does is check out the main profile picture. Wait! You look at content of a person first? Sorry, not buying it, a large percentage of people will base their initial attraction on your posted picture. If the person deems you worth their caliber of sexiness they will then look at the rest of your photos, if by then they are still interested then they will look at the rest of your "content"...you know, the stuff that took you 15 minutes to fill out if not longer, hoping your witty personality shines through the computer screen and thus you are irresistible, resulting in a wink, a nudge, a note or whatever the site provides.
Who are the ones you should be wary of? The non-smilers! Yes gentlemen, I hate to admit it but your "I'm sensitive yet serious" picture 99% of the time looks like you're one dead squirrel away from serial killer status. If the ladies are willing to put up a fun, smiling photo or something more daring like a low cut top and bedroom eyes please return the favor, at least smile in your picture! I bet for sure your response rates from the ladies will triple with that slight adjustment.
Who else should register a red flag? The ones that are married. These guys are already in a long term relationship, what would you bring to the table thats new other than a physical aspect? Plus, don't kid yourself, he will not leave her or the children for you.
My favorite of the scary tri-fecta? Men shooting guns. I have no problem with guns personally, its the idiotic things that people do with them other than hunting, protection or just target practice. If his photos are all of him shooting a gun, here is what he's really telling you: 1. "I look awesome and very macho" 2. "I don't want you to get a clear look at my face" 3. "I may have put down that I like to relax and have fun but really, I like doing it shooting guns, not spending time with friends or possibly you."
Find all 3 of these magic wonders in just one online profile? Run for the hills girl!
Look for those that post pictures of themselves *preferably* clothed, smiling, spending time with friends or family. Anything more should be part of the mystery you unravel during the dating period. Make each other work for the quirks and your own weirdness :)
Lets be honest, the first thing everyone does is check out the main profile picture. Wait! You look at content of a person first? Sorry, not buying it, a large percentage of people will base their initial attraction on your posted picture. If the person deems you worth their caliber of sexiness they will then look at the rest of your photos, if by then they are still interested then they will look at the rest of your "content"...you know, the stuff that took you 15 minutes to fill out if not longer, hoping your witty personality shines through the computer screen and thus you are irresistible, resulting in a wink, a nudge, a note or whatever the site provides.
Who are the ones you should be wary of? The non-smilers! Yes gentlemen, I hate to admit it but your "I'm sensitive yet serious" picture 99% of the time looks like you're one dead squirrel away from serial killer status. If the ladies are willing to put up a fun, smiling photo or something more daring like a low cut top and bedroom eyes please return the favor, at least smile in your picture! I bet for sure your response rates from the ladies will triple with that slight adjustment.
Who else should register a red flag? The ones that are married. These guys are already in a long term relationship, what would you bring to the table thats new other than a physical aspect? Plus, don't kid yourself, he will not leave her or the children for you.
My favorite of the scary tri-fecta? Men shooting guns. I have no problem with guns personally, its the idiotic things that people do with them other than hunting, protection or just target practice. If his photos are all of him shooting a gun, here is what he's really telling you: 1. "I look awesome and very macho" 2. "I don't want you to get a clear look at my face" 3. "I may have put down that I like to relax and have fun but really, I like doing it shooting guns, not spending time with friends or possibly you."
Find all 3 of these magic wonders in just one online profile? Run for the hills girl!
Look for those that post pictures of themselves *preferably* clothed, smiling, spending time with friends or family. Anything more should be part of the mystery you unravel during the dating period. Make each other work for the quirks and your own weirdness :)
Monday, January 10, 2011
living after midnight
drifting off to dream land, your body may be resting but your mind begins to form its own circus of outlandish and silly acrobatics for the next 6-8 hours (if you're lucky enough to get that much down time). just as you and jensen ackles or some other hunky man takes your hand and looks deeply and longingly into your eyes, your heart swells----your dang cell phone goes off with a text message! ugh!
now, because i am always ready for the "middle of the night emergency" i will 99.99% check my phone when my phone rings or a text comes through at this hour of twilight. you never know when someone needs you to pick them up because their designated driver decided he was cool to take you home after a 12 pack and other various sundries.
who else would be awake after midnight and sending texts? oh yeah, that guy or girl you once met either online, at the bar or dog park and they've had enough liquid courage and lack of cell phone supervision and that now that its 2:00am its definitely time to strike up a conversation. as reciever and yes, on occasion, the sender of texts i can tell you, its really not an excellent idea. why do you say? its not because i'm too prim and proper for my own good but for a few reasons:
1. you get a text that late from a random person you can only identify as "blonde guy from bar"?
its a booty call and as we know, relationships built off of the physical first rarely ever turn
into happily ever after.
2. most of the time, the message doesn't make sense or is unreadable, even to the sender when
reviewing their handiwork the next morning over strong coffee and scrambled eggs
3. if you reply, kiss the rest of your evening trying to get any sleep goodbye
4. if you reply the first or even the second time, it sends a message to the sender that its ok with you
that they contact you into the wee early morning hours about french toast and the lingerie
you're wearing. yeah, those are real examples and yes they will continue to text at that hour.
5. as sender of these texts its quite possible your perception is a little off and bad reactions might lead
to a potential texting fight and/or further liquid courage to do something more idiotic. how many of
have had a break up at 3:00am because of this??
respond at your own risk but know that after reading this, you are fully aware that there is a narrow field of desire that the sender is looking to get out of you and its not to ask you what paint color to choose for their next bathroom upgrade. another suggestion, if you have this habit and want to cease you've got an option of either giving your phone to a friend to keep you from texting or turning it off altogether. silence is golden between 2:00-5:00am...now, back to jensen!
now, because i am always ready for the "middle of the night emergency" i will 99.99% check my phone when my phone rings or a text comes through at this hour of twilight. you never know when someone needs you to pick them up because their designated driver decided he was cool to take you home after a 12 pack and other various sundries.
who else would be awake after midnight and sending texts? oh yeah, that guy or girl you once met either online, at the bar or dog park and they've had enough liquid courage and lack of cell phone supervision and that now that its 2:00am its definitely time to strike up a conversation. as reciever and yes, on occasion, the sender of texts i can tell you, its really not an excellent idea. why do you say? its not because i'm too prim and proper for my own good but for a few reasons:
1. you get a text that late from a random person you can only identify as "blonde guy from bar"?
its a booty call and as we know, relationships built off of the physical first rarely ever turn
into happily ever after.
2. most of the time, the message doesn't make sense or is unreadable, even to the sender when
reviewing their handiwork the next morning over strong coffee and scrambled eggs
3. if you reply, kiss the rest of your evening trying to get any sleep goodbye
4. if you reply the first or even the second time, it sends a message to the sender that its ok with you
that they contact you into the wee early morning hours about french toast and the lingerie
you're wearing. yeah, those are real examples and yes they will continue to text at that hour.
5. as sender of these texts its quite possible your perception is a little off and bad reactions might lead
to a potential texting fight and/or further liquid courage to do something more idiotic. how many of
have had a break up at 3:00am because of this??
respond at your own risk but know that after reading this, you are fully aware that there is a narrow field of desire that the sender is looking to get out of you and its not to ask you what paint color to choose for their next bathroom upgrade. another suggestion, if you have this habit and want to cease you've got an option of either giving your phone to a friend to keep you from texting or turning it off altogether. silence is golden between 2:00-5:00am...now, back to jensen!
Thursday, January 6, 2011
he said his name was chris...
ever run across someone so outstanding that even an email or text message from them gives you butterflies? like when meg ryan hears from her computer that tom hanks has sent her a message "you've got mail" and she hasn't even read it yet but you can see her true delight all over her face. those are the golden moments and i had an experience that yes, was similar but lets just say i bet you didn't see this one coming...
he said his name was chris. very funny guy that i'd met in the personals on craigslist. *disclaimer, i promise i'm following my own safety rules so no made for tv movie for me* we exchanged a few emails, then we bumped it up to text messages. after about a month we decided it was time to meet in person. he picked a monday night at a local establishment known for fun games, prizes and a $15 dinner deal so i figured he's got a sense of fun and adventure, score! he was employed, single, drug free, no felonies and didn't live with anyone other than a golden lab plus he was funny and easy going.
open the door and head to the bar where we'd arranged to meet at 8:00pm. its a monday so theres practically no one else in the joint other than the waitresses and a bartendar. i spot a guy sitting at the bar. he fits the description, blonde, fit, casually dressed drinking a beer...."chris?" he turns, smiles and says "hi, you made it". we proceed to talk the normal first date nonspecifics like how was our day, yada yada yada. he seemed a little reserved in comparison to our email and text messages but i figured he was just nervous, first date and all. i order my usual vodka tonic and thats about when i noticed the bartendar had been watching us. hmm....odd but ok, we're probably the only entertainment for him so no big deal right? he joins our conversation for a bit then drifts off to wipe a glass or do something responsible. chris turns to me "so what do you do for a living?"--not a strange question right? wrong! why you ask? probably because we'd had a whole discussion via email about what we both did for a living and had covered all those main basics of age, likes, work, live...so why did this seem strange to me? is he was a serial dater that was juggling so many ladies he can't keep them all straight? i was raised to be polite so i pretended the subject hadn't already been covered and reminded him. no sparks of recognition appeared on his face and i notice he's paying super close attention to that bottle of beer, did he just tune out on me?
chris: so whereabouts in mesa do you live?
me: mesa? hm...i live in phoenix.
chris: you told me you lived in mesa, (laughs) thats why i picked this place because it was inbetween your place and mine.
me: hm...thought you lived in tempe. no?
chris: old town scottsdale
chris: wait, whats your name again?
me: sarah, you're chris. come on, very funny
chris: chris? no my name is david.
and thats when i realized not only had i been sitting there talking to this fantastic guy for the past 20 minutes but really i was talking to a guy that had sadly also gotten stood up by his date! seriously? what are the odds that 2 first dates would be meeting on the same night, same time in the same location? i should have bought a lottery ticket that night lol!
me: wow, i'm really sorry, when i came in and asked if you were chris you replied back so i assumed you were him. ok, well i'm gonna scoot so incase your lady comes she doesn't get spooked. great meeting you. (putting cash down for my drink and exiting as quickly as possible with my most gracious sorority smile on my face).
so what happened with chris? i sent him a text immediately asking him where he was. no response until about 8:40pm as i'm driving home, he indicated his meeting was running late and if i was still there? maybe he could swing by for a quick drink?....(surrrrrrre, cause its totally ok to let a girl wait around for you at a bar for almost an hour!) "negative ghost rider, i am almost home so its just not in the cards tonight. wish you'd taken 30 seconds to send me a text around 8pm that you're running late". i have too much self respect to turn around to meet him now plus...the fake chris was still there and i wasn't going to walk back in there. i do have standards lol
ladies, please, do yourself a favor and lose the guy's number if this ever happens to you, no second chances with a guy who's first date impression is lack of courtesy. secondly, don't settle for a verbal description on appearance, ask for a clear face picture so history doesn't repeat itself on you :)
he said his name was chris. very funny guy that i'd met in the personals on craigslist. *disclaimer, i promise i'm following my own safety rules so no made for tv movie for me* we exchanged a few emails, then we bumped it up to text messages. after about a month we decided it was time to meet in person. he picked a monday night at a local establishment known for fun games, prizes and a $15 dinner deal so i figured he's got a sense of fun and adventure, score! he was employed, single, drug free, no felonies and didn't live with anyone other than a golden lab plus he was funny and easy going.
open the door and head to the bar where we'd arranged to meet at 8:00pm. its a monday so theres practically no one else in the joint other than the waitresses and a bartendar. i spot a guy sitting at the bar. he fits the description, blonde, fit, casually dressed drinking a beer...."chris?" he turns, smiles and says "hi, you made it". we proceed to talk the normal first date nonspecifics like how was our day, yada yada yada. he seemed a little reserved in comparison to our email and text messages but i figured he was just nervous, first date and all. i order my usual vodka tonic and thats about when i noticed the bartendar had been watching us. hmm....odd but ok, we're probably the only entertainment for him so no big deal right? he joins our conversation for a bit then drifts off to wipe a glass or do something responsible. chris turns to me "so what do you do for a living?"--not a strange question right? wrong! why you ask? probably because we'd had a whole discussion via email about what we both did for a living and had covered all those main basics of age, likes, work, live...so why did this seem strange to me? is he was a serial dater that was juggling so many ladies he can't keep them all straight? i was raised to be polite so i pretended the subject hadn't already been covered and reminded him. no sparks of recognition appeared on his face and i notice he's paying super close attention to that bottle of beer, did he just tune out on me?
chris: so whereabouts in mesa do you live?
me: mesa? hm...i live in phoenix.
chris: you told me you lived in mesa, (laughs) thats why i picked this place because it was inbetween your place and mine.
me: hm...thought you lived in tempe. no?
chris: old town scottsdale
chris: wait, whats your name again?
me: sarah, you're chris. come on, very funny
chris: chris? no my name is david.
and thats when i realized not only had i been sitting there talking to this fantastic guy for the past 20 minutes but really i was talking to a guy that had sadly also gotten stood up by his date! seriously? what are the odds that 2 first dates would be meeting on the same night, same time in the same location? i should have bought a lottery ticket that night lol!
me: wow, i'm really sorry, when i came in and asked if you were chris you replied back so i assumed you were him. ok, well i'm gonna scoot so incase your lady comes she doesn't get spooked. great meeting you. (putting cash down for my drink and exiting as quickly as possible with my most gracious sorority smile on my face).
so what happened with chris? i sent him a text immediately asking him where he was. no response until about 8:40pm as i'm driving home, he indicated his meeting was running late and if i was still there? maybe he could swing by for a quick drink?....(surrrrrrre, cause its totally ok to let a girl wait around for you at a bar for almost an hour!) "negative ghost rider, i am almost home so its just not in the cards tonight. wish you'd taken 30 seconds to send me a text around 8pm that you're running late". i have too much self respect to turn around to meet him now plus...the fake chris was still there and i wasn't going to walk back in there. i do have standards lol
ladies, please, do yourself a favor and lose the guy's number if this ever happens to you, no second chances with a guy who's first date impression is lack of courtesy. secondly, don't settle for a verbal description on appearance, ask for a clear face picture so history doesn't repeat itself on you :)
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
online dating, its a chore sometimes
ever been online dating before? find a website that tickles your fancy and of course they will dangle the cutest of the hotties on their main page to get to sign up. i have fallen for this many times so you won't get any judging from me if you decide to sign up. infact, i know several happy couples that have met through online dating and are in committed relationships. i'm not a hater, trust me!
you have to fill in all kinds of information on your likes, dislikes, what you do for fun and semantics like location, age, blah blah blah. after all that, a picture is necessary and of course you want someone to contact you so you sift through hundreds of pictures to find the sexiest, most flattering photo of yourself you can find, hit the submit button and cross your fingers that no crazies, serial killers or nut cases contact you.
i can tell you, i've tried several sites and often times i've found the same guy on each of them. i don't mean "type of guy" i mean "exact photo match and basic info". hey guys, i know some of us ladies do the same thing. just an fyi, not all of these people are on the up and up so caution!
some words of advice while online dating: (this is a gender neutral list of advice)
* never meet at a secluded location or the person's home until you've been in public with them for at least 3-4 dates
* you don't know their last name? don't sleep with them! (seriously i hate that i have to remind people of this fact)
* he/she doesn't text you unless its 2:00am? its a bootie call, you're better than that, don't pursue this relationship, he/she won't change how they see you if you give in but really want more
* compromising yourself is never an option, don't say you like hockey unless you mean it just to impress a guy. it can bite you in rear end if your first date is to a hockey game and you've never even heard what a "white out" is.
* living situation: with the parents? don't judge, we might have a caretaker situation going on but beware if they've never lived anywhere other than the parents house. find out the details before you run into mom and dad the morning after your first sleep over. additionally, living with the ex? get the skinny on that too before it becomes a problem.
* felonies and misdemeanors: don't be afraid to ask. its for your safety (remember the craigslist killer?)
* BE HONEST! you've got nothing to gain by exaggerating or making up nonsense and the potential guy or gal deserves your honesty. plus, wouldn't it suck to start a relationship with someone super awesome with lies? yeah i didn't think so.
*****never offer to give anyone over the internet money. this is just plain stupid. don't do it!
so why do i think online dating can be a chore? well because sometimes it is! you have to log into your account to see if anyone has sent you a love note, check out their profile and if you like them based on their scant bits of information, reply back to strike up a conversation. do not feel that you have to respond to everyone that sends you a message. i once had the same guy send me the same message (which turned out to be what i can only assume a automatic cut and paste job he sent to all his ladies) three separate times. i had a feeling something was strange the 2nd time he sent me the same message but the 3rd time...come on, have some standards and if i didn't respond the first 2 times, i probably won't the 3rd time. don't be afraid to sift through your "potential matches" and let a guy know "hey i think you're cute and i like your profile, lets chat". worse case scenario...no reply back and you've only taken 2 seconds of your life out to send that message. if you do find someone fantastic in the long run, wasn't that time well spent? either way, if you don't put yourself out there and do the work, no complaining from the peanut gallery ok?
several of my stories you'll be reading on this blog more than likely will be because i'd met the guy online. just a heads up people and no, it doesn't discourage me from online dating, it just makes me appreciate the awesome friends i have to turn to when the shenanigans start to occur :)
i'm sure there are other things that this post didn't address, we'll get it eventually. i just want ya'll to be safe while still having fun! you can meet some of the most interesting people online dating and its a great way to "meet" someone if you're shy. good luck people, you're gonna need it :)
you have to fill in all kinds of information on your likes, dislikes, what you do for fun and semantics like location, age, blah blah blah. after all that, a picture is necessary and of course you want someone to contact you so you sift through hundreds of pictures to find the sexiest, most flattering photo of yourself you can find, hit the submit button and cross your fingers that no crazies, serial killers or nut cases contact you.
i can tell you, i've tried several sites and often times i've found the same guy on each of them. i don't mean "type of guy" i mean "exact photo match and basic info". hey guys, i know some of us ladies do the same thing. just an fyi, not all of these people are on the up and up so caution!
some words of advice while online dating: (this is a gender neutral list of advice)
* never meet at a secluded location or the person's home until you've been in public with them for at least 3-4 dates
* you don't know their last name? don't sleep with them! (seriously i hate that i have to remind people of this fact)
* he/she doesn't text you unless its 2:00am? its a bootie call, you're better than that, don't pursue this relationship, he/she won't change how they see you if you give in but really want more
* compromising yourself is never an option, don't say you like hockey unless you mean it just to impress a guy. it can bite you in rear end if your first date is to a hockey game and you've never even heard what a "white out" is.
* living situation: with the parents? don't judge, we might have a caretaker situation going on but beware if they've never lived anywhere other than the parents house. find out the details before you run into mom and dad the morning after your first sleep over. additionally, living with the ex? get the skinny on that too before it becomes a problem.
* felonies and misdemeanors: don't be afraid to ask. its for your safety (remember the craigslist killer?)
* BE HONEST! you've got nothing to gain by exaggerating or making up nonsense and the potential guy or gal deserves your honesty. plus, wouldn't it suck to start a relationship with someone super awesome with lies? yeah i didn't think so.
*****never offer to give anyone over the internet money. this is just plain stupid. don't do it!
so why do i think online dating can be a chore? well because sometimes it is! you have to log into your account to see if anyone has sent you a love note, check out their profile and if you like them based on their scant bits of information, reply back to strike up a conversation. do not feel that you have to respond to everyone that sends you a message. i once had the same guy send me the same message (which turned out to be what i can only assume a automatic cut and paste job he sent to all his ladies) three separate times. i had a feeling something was strange the 2nd time he sent me the same message but the 3rd time...come on, have some standards and if i didn't respond the first 2 times, i probably won't the 3rd time. don't be afraid to sift through your "potential matches" and let a guy know "hey i think you're cute and i like your profile, lets chat". worse case scenario...no reply back and you've only taken 2 seconds of your life out to send that message. if you do find someone fantastic in the long run, wasn't that time well spent? either way, if you don't put yourself out there and do the work, no complaining from the peanut gallery ok?
several of my stories you'll be reading on this blog more than likely will be because i'd met the guy online. just a heads up people and no, it doesn't discourage me from online dating, it just makes me appreciate the awesome friends i have to turn to when the shenanigans start to occur :)
i'm sure there are other things that this post didn't address, we'll get it eventually. i just want ya'll to be safe while still having fun! you can meet some of the most interesting people online dating and its a great way to "meet" someone if you're shy. good luck people, you're gonna need it :)
Welcome to the True Confessions of a Hopeful Girl!
hi there, thanks for stopping by! my name is sarah, commonly also known as monson to most of the world. some people have told me "you should write a book!" after i've shared with them some of my most horrific and TRUE dating stories i've experienced, not much of a novelist these days but i figured why not put something together to share my stories of peaks and valleys as well as some of yours? if you can learn from my experiences or from others then honestly, i think we've left this world a little better than we found it. i won't lie, this is coming from a female perspective so if some of the guys that are reading these posts (which is highly encouraged) are offended or have comments, just remember its only my opinion on personal experience. i do not claim myself to be an expert *disclaimer for those of you readers in the legal field* :) much love and best of luck to you all gorgeous beauties!
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