Spring Cleaning in the Fall

Computers, blackberries, zip drive, iPad, iPhone, I just don't know! Call me old fashioned but with how quickly electronic gadgets keep evolving with the latest and greatest, I kinda miss the old days when people used home phones. Try and find one...chances are you're more likely to win the lottery than find a land line in someones house. I'm a little slow on keeping up with Electronic Jones' but at least I'm trying.

I fought for a long time, a close friend and past roommate can attest, she had to talk me into getting a cell phone. Eventually she won and my first baby step was with her old Nokia which eventually got passed along to my mother. What can I say, we are a recycling family. Long story short, as time went on and I stored numbers of people in my contacts list, I got creative with the naming function. For example, I mark some of good friends: Lady, Hot Sharon, My Nick!, Quiet Riot, Ra R. is Creepy, Trent the PT, etc. It personalizes a special funny memory or recognition of how they are part of my life. For the men....I always marked them appropriately: Travis POF, Original Craig, Kevin the Runner, No Commitment Rob...things that would remind me of which guy he was. Let me drop this nugget of information on you before we move on, I don't juggle men. Its normally either one guy I'm dating (or just go on 1 date) then nothing...so onward to the next one. 

Now that I have a fancy iPhone, I decided that the same contact list that transferred over is the same one I've had for the past 3 years and I couldn't even remember who "Dave the Sailor" was...its time for a spring cleaning! I went through my entire phone list...good grief! There was someone to delete in almost every letter in my directory alphabet! 17 in total got trashed! It felt so good to kick that baggage out! Of course, I ran through the list of "Do not answer #1, Do not answer #2...." theres about 11 of them unfortunately because they are crazy men or heart breakers that well...I had to keep them so I know its them and don't fall into that trap anymore by answering a number I don't recognize. No such thing as blocking these ones...if its taken me until 2011 to get email on my phone....well any more than that is just too advanced for me lol. Plus I figure if I ever run into a real douche bag I could always give them one of these guy's numbers instead of mine right? nah that's horrible! Even I wouldn't really do that but...I'd think about it. :)

So here I am, 17 guys from the past 3 years, gone from my life. Its like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders, very liberating! Yes, I do recognize that that's a big number but as a friend pointed out, its roughly only 5.5 men a year. For a single gal...that's probably about right. Moral of the story, you can't move forward if you can't let go of the past, even if you didn't realize you were still wandering around with it in your back pocket!

So, who's got some early spring cleaning to do? :)

Brazen Brett

Evaluating this year as its come to pass, you'd think reading over these blog posts that I'm too picky. I might be, I might also be safe. Why is that? Cause you never know when a guy like *Brett will come along and really "go there".

*Brett is from out of town and apparently I've become a magnet for the "newly arrived to Phoenix". We began chatting and things seemed to be working out well at first. Texting and messaging, figured when he got to the Valley and settled in we could go out for dinner and drinks. Brett is handsome, rugged, Midwestern type. Solid muscles and kind eyes, and yes you shouldn't judge a book by its cover but I couldn't help it, he seems all around a pretty great catch. October was his month to move to Phoenix so near the end of September he was asking me a bit more about places to check out. He started asking me periodically in our chats about my neighborhood, if I was near to the freeway, grocery stores, mall, etc. Kinda random but I am slow when it comes to picking up on things until its right there, sitting in my lap and its too late to do anything about it. I should have known with those questions, something was off.

About a week before his move date he and I are chatting

Me: We could go to Ra in Scottsdale if you like sushi.
Brett: Yeah that sounds good. Have you been to Cocomo Joe's? Is that near you?
Me: No, its about 45 mins from my place.
Brett: Oh ok, what about your neighborhood? Is there someplace close to you?
Me: Yeah but its pretty far for happy hour.
Brett: I could stay with you :)
Me: Stay with me? Like overnight? I don't think thats a good idea since we haven't met in person before.
Brett: Or I could move in with you :)
Brett: I could give you a great massage every night :)
Me: ......
Me: ......
Me: (light bulb goes off) I don't think thats a good idea. I'm not looking for a roommate and I don't invite strangers back to my home I've met off the internet. I'm thinking you're looking for a relationship that I'm not able to provide. I do wish you luck!

Blocked him from contacting me on the website and from chat. I pray to baby Jesus in a tuxedo shirt that he doesn't remember he has my number and tries to text me.

I met this guy off of a dating website...not roommatefinder.com YIKES! I have to ask, what type of person thinks its ok to move in with a complete stranger in another state after meeting them briefly on a dating website? All I saw was the news on the first night he'd moved in "Local Single Girl Murdered by New Roommate" byline: Looking for a date and instead got a crazy roommate. Memorial Services will be held next week".  Honestly it could have gone the other way, I could have been a female serial killer and we'd never hear from him again.

An old and reliable rule of thumb from our childhood days: DO NOT let a stranger into your house!

*Brett is not really his name but its been changed to keep this kid's identity safe, cause at least one of us is bright enough to keep that in mind lol.